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- Tips for owners of dog friendly businesses
- Tips for a benevolent alpha
- Local fun things to do with your dog!
- What to do when your dog isn't dog friendly
- Local Resources for Dog Owners in the HRM
Tips for a benevolent alpha
He always got up and moved instead of being walked over. When we were at someone's house he always stayed with me. He only barked when he needed to. He only went up to people who gave him eye contact and smiled at him - otherwise he'd just ignore him.
He was a very smart dog. I do not take complete credit for his wonderful personality and temperament. But I think I did have something to do with it. I call myself a "benevolent alpha" which to me means that i only gave him commands for things I actually needed him to do. I would be driven to distraction when we are at Point Pleasant Park (or anywhere that there are dogs) and I'd see owners constantly hollering at their dogs to come and when the dog doesn't obey they stand in the same spot and just holler louder.
And they do it the whole time. Their dog is sniffing or playing then for no apparent reason (except to hear the sound of their own voices) they are hollering "Come on Rover" or whatever it is they are saying.
There are 2 reasons the dog doesn't come.
1: He has learned that the command is optional, and
2: Imagine if you were your dog and you were doing something that you found very interesting and for no reason you were being asked to stop. Would you? It is my belief that you only should call your dog to you when you need them to come to you.
Commands are not optional. If the dog doesn't come you go to the dog and get them. I took Charlie - and all my dogs - to the park for their enjoyment. If they want to sniff one tree for the whole hour that we're there, that's what I'll let them do. For one hour a day I follow their agenda.
I would also distract him until we're within a reasonable distance so that the dog is close enough to approach without going completely ape-shit and appearing like he's going to kill the poor thing. One thing that is very important though when you're talking about leashes is strength.
Charlie was physically stronger than me, so when he was younger and I needed to control him more I used a Halti (or Gentle Leader which is what I used) harness. If we didn't have that we would both be dead right now and I mean that quite literally. I didn't find that slip (choke) collars or body harnesses worked because he was still so strong and just ended up choking himself. When Charlie was an older dog he had calmed down and even when he saw a cat on the other side of the road he could contain himself. But I think if we didn't have the Gentle Leader he would've continued to drag me around where he wanted. He learned with that device that I am the one in charge and even without the device now I am still in charge.
That is extremely important. Another thing that I think is important in the pursuit of a happy/good dog is to never punish but always praise. Whenever Charlie did something that was bad or inappropriate I didn't punish him for it - I just ignored it. So he was never rewarded for bad behaviour (ie: got attention). When he did something good he was treated as if he was better than sliced bread.
This goes for everything - including house training. If he had an accident inside I wouldn't punish him. I would just clean it up (with soap and water then white vinegar to remove the trace smell). It wasn't his fault that he went inside. It was mine. I wouldn't notice the signals he was giving me and/or I had let him out of my sight for too long.
A puppy can hold his water 1 hour for every month that he is old, so if he's 3 months old he needs to go out every 3 hours. Whether he looks like he wants to go out or not. And you wouldn't let your 2 year old baby have complete run of your hourse, so you shouldn't let your puppy dog either. I believe it's my job as his companion to make his life as pleasurable and happy as possible.
It is what you do for family and friends that you love. I took my relationship with Charlie and my other dogs very seriously. He deserved to be treated as a full member of my family and I attempted to fulfill that.
That's my main reason for having this website. I wanted to be with him as much as possible and take him as many places as I can.
There's no reason why a well-behaved, well-mannered and healthy dog cannot go to most public places.
The time has come to stick our necks out and just show up at places with our family members and expect good service!